Here are things NOT to say on a first date
Remember that your first meeting is typically focused on getting acquainted with one another and assessing whether there is any spark between the two of them. Therefore, try to keep conversations lighthearted and respectful when engaging in enjoyable activities (such as taking a trip out for ice cream or coffee).
Here are ten things to discuss on your first date:
- “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”
- “My ex was crazy.”
- “I don’t like your outfit/hair/makeup/etc.”
- “I make a lot of money and own expensive things.”
- “How many people have you slept with?”
- “Oh, I hate that restaurant/bar/venue!”
- “Do you wish to have kids? Since I certainly don’t. …”
- “Let me tell you all about my political or religious beliefs”
- Making inappropriate jokes, comments or remarks.
- “Sorry but I need to take this call” –If it’s not an emergency!
Here are some ideas regarding how to approach your first date:
- Make sure you arrive at the agreed time or a bit early if it is possible. It demonstrates that you are respectful of the time of your date and are enthusiastic about meeting them.
- Be you: Don’t attempt to portray yourself as someone you aren’t This means pretending to love things you don’t, or exaggerating your achievements or hiding a part of your character. Being authentic is the key!
- Listen more than you speak Make sure you ask open-ended questions. take the time to listen attentively to their answers to make them feel heard and respected; being interested in what they’re speaking about will help you build relationships.
- Keep it light-hearted: Avoid heavy topics such as politics/religion until later dates when both parties have developed a better understanding of each other’s perspectives/beliefs.
- Tell stories or recollections only when requested. Don’t take over the conversation by focusing on yourself, instead ensure there’s a balance between listening and sharing!
- Be grateful: Whether it’s thanking them for recommending the venue or applauding something they’ve said or done in the course of the conversation, you should always express gratitude to them for their gestures.
- Respect boundaries and consent Be aware of the body language or tone of voice if someone appears uneasy or appears hesitant, modify their behavior according to the signs! Always seek permission before engaging in any form of touching contact (such as a handshake) even the feeling that there’s chemistry forming between two individuals!
Remember that every first date comes with its own distinctive dynamic, based on the person involved. Therefore, be flexible while focusing on the mutual respect and enjoyment throughout the entire experience 🙂